Parents and educators have to teach and model for all young people a social culture that not only says mutual respect and kind tolerance are social goods to be applauded, but also shames bullies and collectively stands up against intimidators. Both carrot and stick are necessary. Don’t blame just “the media”; if the fault is in “the culture,” then the responsibility belongs to all of us.

In light of the press going after Pope Benedict’s handling of clerics accused of sexual abuse, shouldn’t they now focus on Mr. Obama’s Secretary of Education for this and similar cases?

In many public schools, principals are mainly just trying to “get by” —collect their not insubstantial checks and avoid as much hassle as possible.  Calling these kids in and disciplining them almost certainly means hassling by their probably equally aggressive parents, possibly their parent’s lawyers, and of course, the kids themselves who are perfectly willing to turn their terroristic activities on the principal if provoked (e.g., slashed tires, paint thrown on car.)  Therefore, many, if not most, principals in this situation respond to the complaints of the victim and their parents by saying either “it’s just kids being kids” or “there’s nothing we can do.”  A couple of good lawsuits with million dollar settlements and you’d see a sea change.